“I feel we must give this relation some time and space”. Haven’t you dreaded the moment, when someone you love dearly, says these words. So what is it that causes a relation to break? Now don’t get me wrong- The relationship I am talking about is of a very different nature. I would be a little incorrect to call it puppy love or simply infatuation. However it would be a grosser mistake to call it love. Na, you can’t fall in love at 17; but you do-or at least you feel you have. And what happens when it ends? To you the world stops spinning, hell freezes over and pigs fly: p. It’s natural for you to feel so because you believe so strongly that you are in love that falling out of it means the end. Not every one can be a Joey.
So why do they end? When everything is perfect, why does it end! Cutting out all the other obvious reasons of cheating and it-was-nothing-serious there is another reason why some relationships end. This reason has probably rarely been talked about or explored. You see when we are slightly younger we are exposed to this new feeling, an attraction towards the opposite sex. As we grow up we give it a name and decide that we are in love. However committing yourself at this age is a risky business. It can affect in a lot of ways your studies, career thought process. I am of the opinion that you can rise above these reasons and tackle your life and the relationship simultaneously. To the point- the reason why the relation still breaks is because one of the two gets the feeling that he/she is being tied down and getting dependent on one person at this age is dangerous. After all what, 10 years hence it doesn’t work out (other reasons). Will you be able to manage alone? Or will you be a broken wreck then? Perhaps had you not been so dependent on someone so young you would be able to tackle this situation better. Now if you are to argue that being committed and learning to be independent can go hand in hand, I am sorry to say – you are sadly mistaken.
It is in such a situation that a very powerful bond is taken for granted and skipped. Friendship. Being committed and loving someone as a friend is the best thing you can do in your adolescence and it teaches you far more than a relationship can teach. It can give you more than what a relationship @ 18 can give you.
So all those of you who are in love, or think they are, need not get worried. I am not telling you to break up or anything. But yes if the relation ends and if u care for him/her deeply don’t spend hours cursing him and trying to distance yourself from him/her. Instead be the friend who will be there in their every walk of life. Be the one who catches all their tears for if you truly care then you will love them no matter what.
P.S : didn’t your dad tell you NOT to fall in love? Maybe he is right :p
.Also a special thank you to that friend of mine who taught me a little more about life. Thank you 
This is so lame.. and so.. ‘gay’.
that was my byline.. just for the ‘cool’ effects. Now, my take on wtf this was.
At the age of 17-20 in their teens.. when you feel you have fallen in love.. it’s ur testosterone actually that is flowing in ur veins. The so called ‘thin’ line between love and lust is non-existent. It is basically a sexual desire that draws one towards the other. If you wanna bet… count the number of high school sweethearts and compare it with the number of fat high school sweethearts. Male teens generally talk about how good their girl’s curves are.. whereas gays like you might say you like her nature.. the caring person that she is. basically.. everybody at this age is a perv.
as u grow a bit old, your adrenals and corticoids don’t really show the same rage they used to.. and then ur brain plays a little part [this brain.. is basically the mind that u have control have.. like the one in which u take a major role in taking a decision].
no friend is gonna be there for anyone.. and forget forever. You can show me exceptions.. but statistics go the other way too… probability says you are not gonna have a person who really cares for you. It’s the best u assume the worst in life and be delighted at the beautiful world out there, or look out for sugar, spice and everything nice and write profanity-laden blog articles.
people are attracted to people because they have something they want. A system, any system living or non-living, human or non-human always undergoes a phenomena if it benefits from it. Relationships break because 17 year olds are idiots. They think that there is a lot to gain from when their hormones flow out. But when reality comes, the benefit fades out. The reason to be with someone no longer remains valid. Or maybe, you get plain bored. The only point where i agree with you is that people feel that they are dependant on somebody else. Actually speaking, i think it’s that they need their own independence. People don’t like being questioned and being answerable to somebody. And that factor counts when your 30.. forget 17. When you talk about ‘cheating’ it’s more like the ‘system’ benefits from the other person more than that eternal being with whom he/she wanted to take long walks on a beach holding hands. There is a selfish world out there.. and we need to realize that.
friendship is more or less the same thing. Isn’t it obvious that everybody wants to be friends with that cool guy over there.. wants to be known in social circles. in the end, you are always alone.
rohan
Ah yes rohan. But it is what you think. I personally dont agree with you at all and ,lol, you know that !
u suck..
what a miserable loser.
Well! I agree trust and understanding are the foundations of a relationship; but when one gets into a relationship, this early in life what most of them lack is maturity! and the career aspect also counts. But you can still stay independent in your relationship. Actually its more fun, that you still get to do what you absolutely love to and then you have someone to love you as you are!
Heck that never works !! being independent while in a relationship ?
just concentrate on ur studies guys…focus..very important..all this takes that away…make a life first…make love later;)!
n friends…nothing like that exists..there r exceptions to that theory{all my friends;)}..but otherwise..like rohan said ITS A SELFISH WORLD!
but aman watve uve ritten is a point of view..so i wont cal it lame or gay..it makes sense to u..so its not trash:)
Well there have been moments when i have wanted to give up in life too but i dont believe the world is so selfish.I believe
me calling me it lame or gay was another point of view. Not so rhetorically critic though..
you are just a jerk rohan .. and what with “rhetorically” . New fancy word your learnt ?
Thats your perspective! No comments on that..
Nice one………….u are dedicated to it!!!
loved it